THE MAMIPIKIN TALKS EXPERIENCE - EVERY WOMAN IS AN ENGINEER

  It has been about 9 months since I shared on this platform. I missed you all dearly. I have been writing, but not sharing on here as I am onto my third book. Anyhow that is a story for another post. Before we continue, can I just take a moment to applaud those who send me messages daily asking when the blog will be back up. Round of applause to you all. Thank you for keeping me in check.
 I promise to stay consistent moving forward. 
  
      


    This past weekend, I was blessed to witness history at THE MAMIPIKIN TALKS EXPERIENCE. (Mamipikin Talks-Mothers/Women in conversation). 
   The NOMAMIPIKINLEFTBEHIND Brand hosts and sponsors this phenomenal event several times a year, around the USA. (More about this event here-http://nomamipikinleftbehind.com/mamipikin-talks.html.) No single blog post can give you an insight to the mighty things that happen at Mamipikin Talks. From the speakers, participants to online viewers, everyone is spectacular and transparent. I will however like to share with you a tiny part of my message to the ladies this weekend. 

EVERY WOMAN IS AN ENGINEER

 This is an entire chapter of my book (Mamipikin Talks/A safe space to be) which can be purchased here -http://eurykahndumu.com/store.html

   Every woman is an engineer! Yes of course. What is the definition of an engineer? An engineer is a skillful contriver or an originator of something. They are capable of modifying and building a structure.      I bet you did not know that every woman is an engineer! You are an engineer in your homes and in your life. You are constantly building a structure and making sure that the structure meets the need of all users always. You come up with ways to do things easier, faster, and more efficiently. We are constantly working on a project as women. It could be relationships, careers, businesses, personal development, child development, etc. As engineers we need to constantly make sure the system we have in place works. You need to stop everything and evaluate periodically to see if the system you have in place is working for you. Is the system working to your advantage? Is it meeting your needs? This helps you update and redesign the system to keep it fully functional. When systems malfunction we go into depression, anxiety and a lot more. Your goal in life is to make sure that as an engineer you do not shut down or ruin the engine. Sometimes a simple reboot will save the system from completely malfunctioning. Reboots for me are retreats, women empowerment conferences, vacations, well planned breaks and elimination of self-sabotage. These are necessary tune ups and oil changes for my system. You cannot be an engineer who is working with an old module or who fails to inspect the engine and attend to parts of the engine which require tuning or apply a patch where necessary. As an engineer you must figure out what your GIFT/BRAND/DNA is so that the entire system is not flawed.
       Your system longs for you the engineer to make sure it’s meeting every need.  As an engineer your job is to keep building, molding and modifying your systems.Some jobs are a bridge to your purpose, while others are your purpose. When the Creator puts you in a certain position, sometimes it’s just a bridge and we decide to live on it. No one should live on a bridge. Bridges are created to help you get to the other side. No matter how fancy it is you can’t move in and live on it. 
DO NOT  LIVE ON A BRIDGE! YOU ARE AN ENGINEER! REBOOT OR REBUILD!

 THE MAMIPIKIN TALKS EXPERIENCE 

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"WE ARE HUGGERS"

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SPEAKERS/PANELIST/WORSHIP LEADERS IN ACTION 

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WHAT DID WE ACCOMPLISH?

1. Held Life changing conversations that addressed the stereotypes and prejudices that we face as women in today's world.

2. Workshops that empowered, uplifted, motivated and transformed our minds.

3. Tools to assist with building effective functional strategies in our children.

4. The necessary tools to savor life in all its splendor.

5. Workshops on activating the inborn degrees.

6. Financial Education (Money Matters), focus on time tested ideas for living within your means.

7. Mental Health: YOUR Sanity is your wealth.

8. Caring for Your Whole Self.

9. Tools/Tips to assist with reviving Your Career.

And more...

Our focus is creating a positive and judgement free environment that promotes conversations that empower your emotional, spiritual, physical and psychological well-being. When you share in conversation with other women you realize that there is a real life healing that takes place. You learn that most of us have very similar struggles and triumphs. Take charge of those very issues that hold you back by addressing them in a forum that is judgment free

Thank YOU for catching up. To see the rest of the event photos click here -https://www.facebook.com/1134460004/posts/10215881739973115/

THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS, SUNSHINE COMMITTEE, SPEAKERS, AND REGISTRATION TEAM. THIS IS ONLY A DREAM WITHOUT YOUR SUPPORT.

Can we all say thank you to my spouse who has to deal with all the emotions I go through during the planning phase? hehehehe, thank you love. You are my best decision. 

KISSES,

Don't lose your MIND...

   Happy New year Mamipikins!
   I definitely owe you all an apology for being MIA. After writing and publishing my first book; Mamipikin Talks/ A Safe Space To Be You, I have been on the go nonstop. Its been one event to the other and then we are in 2018. This is a great time to be alive. A time where you have the ability to think and make decisions for yourself. Don't take this time for granted.

   I wanted to start the year off  by opening up a discussion on sanity. There is a trend in our community asking women to meet certain needs or risk losing spouses, boyfriends, housemates, partners (whatever your situation is) and this has kept me up for a while so I thought I will share on here so we start this year strong.

   Just so you know I am a christian married mother of four so please don't come at me with bible verses of submission because this conversation is certainly not about submission. I am all for submission according to the bible by women to their husbands. And because I know we have male readers, men please do well to love your spouse's, for the bible says so as well. OK, back to the topic at hand. Today’s society is asking that we do hoops, back flips, splits and a lot more so that our spouses are not promiscuous. We go as far as blaming women for not being able to stay on task with the demands at all times as the reason for promiscuity. No one mentions the most important aspect in a relationship which is sanity and inner peace. You want to be very sane. Don't lose your sanity over any relationship. You want to do all these lovely things cook, clean, be a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed, wear matching lingerie, travel the world all of it but at the end of the day make sure YOU are present and not just doing this to keep up with today's idea of a relationship. When you have lost your mind you are no good to your family, your relationship, your career, and most importantly yourself. You want to fall in love not fall for love. If anything drives you insane it's not worth it. You don't understand how bad it is until you are completely wiped out. Then you result to hate, jealousy, gossip, depression and worst cases suicide. Yes people die for Love and relationships. It's a fact.
     You want to enjoy your relationship, first of all love yourself and your mind. Be in love with you. Be sooo in love with yourself that you can remain PRESENT in the relationship and your spouse cannot help but fall in love with you over and over again. Make sure you don't give up your dreams for love. You need to keep your mind sane by doing the things you love. These things should be the things that complete you as a person.

  Yes, mind blowing sex, great food, vacations, and all these are great then what? Can you have sex forever? How much food can you eat?  Both men and women need peace and sanity at home and in their lives. You want Christ to give you inner peace that keeps you sane. You want to be a sane human. No man wants an insane woman and vice versa. At the end of the day you need YOU.

  At the end of the day a relationship should complete you because you are bringing your best to the table and so are they. If you constantly feel depleted in your relationships you need to reevaluate and go back to the drawing board. Of course no relationship is perfect. No one should expect complete fulfillment from anyone else unless our Lord Jesus Christ. You wont meet any saints on earth, so as the year begins look around you. Are your relationships, friendships, partnerships etc. time wasters or are do they contribute to your greater purpose or are you loosing your mind daily.
And just so you know relationship is defined as the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. So Please check your relationships!

Be selfish and Love you first.
Be selfish and create a workable schedule that adds you to the list.
Be selfish and buy yourself that gift that you are expecting from a relationship or spouse.
Be selfish and have a hobby that keeps you sane.
Be selfish and have your own list, haha. Bring your own list of demands on the table.
Be selfish and start this year with the intention of keeping your sanity!
Be selfish and read a self help book.
Be selfish and insist on being a woman that has inner peace.
Be selfish and insist on being the sane one in all your relationships.

You need to be present to chase your wildest dreams. You need to be present in order to Love anyone else. You need to be present to be a great mother, wife, aunt, neighbor and human.
Don't lose your mind in 2018.

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 Mamipikin Talks/ A Safe Space To Be You
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Cheers Kisses,

The DEGREE inside of YOU

The degree inside of  YOU.

   Oh how I have missed you all. Please forgive me. Its been one of the busiest summers for me in many years. I know that's a lame excuse, and will try to do better. I have been writing though, because I write to stay sane. I write my thoughts, my frustrations, my joy, and a lot more. I have been writing to my self.

    So as I resume to sharing, I will like to talk about something that has been on my mind. "The DEGREE inside of you". I know my scholars and very highly educated and over achiever Mamipikins are like "Yes!!!" hahahaha. I am sorry to tell you that this degree does not come from a formal class room. This degree comes from inside of YOU! 

    I usually share with everyone I meet that I never finished college as its not in line with what I am called to do in this season of my life. Now don't screen shot this and tell the world that I am encouraging women to drop out of school. Please screen shot this as a reminder that there is no formal classroom that can teach you about walking in your purpose. You have an inborn degree or several, in some cases that only need your activation. This activation rarely comes from a college campus. All I am saying is that in order to succeed you MUST ACTIVATE the DEGREE inside of YOU! Activation starts with believing in yourself enough that you don't have space in your head and heart for low self esteem, doubt, malice, hate, gossip, and the need for outside validation. 

   You don't need any formal training to walk in the gift that the Lord blessed you with. It comes naturally. You only need activation. Its like having a cell phone, unless you activate it it's just a phone. The only activating agent is ACTION. What are you doing with whats inside of you?  A lot of our poor decisions are based on the simple fact that we don't trust our inborn degrees. Or we let them go dormant. Our children make the same mistakes because we don't tell them how dynamic they are. We raise our children with the same pressures we were raised with. At a young age our children are already in constant fear of what people will think about them. Some of us have taken on the role of satisfying the outside by all means possible. We are in a time where walking your purpose is deemed a taboo and being a side chick, or home wrecker is glorified because society says so. A time where choosing to be steadfast in your purpose is considered a taboo trend, but its OK to forward child pornography and more. A time where siblings are taught hate by parents based on the parents reaction to their children's "success". All this because the latter seems acceptable to society and we have been conditioned to think that what society thinks about us is more important than what we think about our selves. Are we really happy with what society deems important? what does it do to our moral compass? Is what society expects out of you a reflection of your internal degree or gifting? 

    A snippet of one of the highlights of my very busy summer. Teaching/sharing on weddings, family, marriage and more at the AEPDS BRIDAL ACADEMY (http://aepds.com/aepds-bridal-academy.html) 

   Your gift is enough. Your God given ability to function and bring change is enough. Nobody should tell you that success only comes with a lengthy blueprint and hosts of institutional degrees. Your blueprint and GPS is in Christ and he lives within you. Your in born gift will always bring about the completion you need to function properly. The activation and honoring of this gift will change your life for the best. Take a chance and follow that which is inside of you. Life is your only classroom. 

With one of the best teams I have ever worked with. Destination wedding in Montego Bay, Jamaica

  As always  #NOMAMIPIKINLEFTBEHIND!

(Our next couple of entries will be on recognizing the degrees set inside of you and more. Don't forget to subscribe to stay connected.) 

Kisses :)