Happy Anniversary ( Love, Compromise, Event-planning and a little Football )

 

     Today I celebrate love and compromise. My love and I officially kicked things off this same week some 12 years ago. We chose this same week years later to make it official according to the law. I celebrate love, sacrifice, dedication, selflessness, perseverance, growth, maturity, honesty, compromise and above all Gods favor and kindness.

     God in his infinite mercy has kept us. We give him glory and honor for without his grace we will still be Ndifor and Eurykah, but because he chose us we are One. Thank God for my selfless husband who loves me for me. Life works best when its Me and You.

      We chose Love and trusted God to lead us. Our focus is raising grounded children and building a solid and happy marriage. Marriage can be beautiful when you both understand that its not a field trip or internship, and you are ready to bring out the best in each other regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in. Our story is a testimony. The best part about our marriage is that we never have to pretend. We love each other flaws and all. There is no envy and pride. We have declared our Marriage a judgement free zone. 

Cheers to a hundred more years of Love, compromise, event-planning  and a little football. 

    

Kisses:)

"nomamipikinleftbehind"
 No mother will be left out of the fun times happening in today's world, we wont be under-looked, misunderstood and misjudged.We are saying that there's life left in us, Post stretchmarks, back-pain, painful labor, weight-gain, life-changing labor pain, financial changes, emotional and physical changes, and a lot more.You must create time to live a little. Every mother must create time for a "breather". Your children deserve a mother who is all-encompassing.  
  

Destination [ Martinique ]

 Every now and then we need a break from everything. Pack your bags and take a little get away from your children, work and everything that keeps you on a schedule. Taking a break is mandatory, its not a luxury especially for those mothers who work from home. I used to think that taking a vacation was a huge luxury only reserved for those millionaire parents in Potomac, MD with 2 Nanny's and a chauffer. Huge misconception. Give your self a break every now and then. You absolutely deserve it.


Enjoy.

Photographer: http://drevizionmedia.com/ #Drevizion
Location: Martinique
Models: Check me out :)

 

 

 

Typical conversation with these three. ( My favorite team anyhow)

 

 

 

 

 

And then I had to come back to reality.....

Even though I love my reality :)

 

#nomamipikinleftbehind

 



Marriage is not a #trend

     Marriage is not a trend. Its not like having a nose ring, or hightop skirt, or peplum blouse, or red bottom shoes to show off with for a short time and then you move on to the next high fashion item once that trend ends. A wedding is a very tiny part of your marriage. You get ooohs and ahhhhhs for a couple of hours and you are left alone after the celebrations to put in the work required to make it work. After you have stayed in the limelight for a while and you cannot keep up with the "trend" things start falling apart. Then you realize you need more than, a super fancy wedding, nice body type, career status, family status, a child (yes a child)  and more to be married. It requires 2 people who have been ordained by God and who are willing to put in 200 percent of what it takes to keep going. Finding time for each other, staying true to oneself, Loving them through hell, accepting that you are both imperfect, being able to compromise, loosing a couple of friends along the way, dealing with intruders, and more. I mean its a constant job. Imagine being with someone who doesn't understand what it takes to be married. Its a nightmare being in a marriage by yourself (yes some people are in it all by themselves and thats a post for another day ... ) working hard to keep the outside appealing and slowly dying on the inside.

   Lets not look at the outside of our friends, neighbors, "facebookers", "social media elites", and all the "well packaged weddings"  and get eager to jump into marriage with just with anyone. Unfortunately a lot of pressure is placed on unmarried folk by their family and society. No one is less of a person because they are single. Lets give everyone a chance to find the person that is right for them and not the person that can fit into the picture at that given time.

  And to you my married folk, keep building, loving, forgiving, compromising and staying strong, remember that you are both to bring out only the absolute best of each other, trusting God to Lead and guide you.

  And to you my single parents, don't let anyone tell you that you are any less of a parent/person because you are not married. You are not your children's parent by chance. You were chosen specifically by God to be the parent of this child. If Marriage is in your future it will come to pass. No one is equipped to pass any judgement on you!

   Marriage can be beautiful when you both understand that its not a field trip or internship, and you are ready to bring out the best in each other regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.

Cheers to the New month.
Let No mami pikin be left behind. Marriage is not a trend. Its a lifetime commitment that requires constant work done with love and dedication.

Muah.