Tear down the box ...

     Today's society :We are not allowed to take chances, try new things, make mistakes, change our minds, start something new, start a new business, ignore a trend, love out loud, fall in and out of love, have any fun, change your mind, and a whole lot more. Society does not want you to LIVE! Who makes all the rules? Are they following these rules?  How can you explain that being yourself has suddenly become a crime? 

      There was a time when the mere thought of living outside the box and taking chances scared me to death.  At this same time I was not able to run my business as I had envisioned  because I  was using society's manual. I worried about what "people" will say or think, I had ideas that I will share and will immediately get reminded that those ideas could never work. I will wait for society's approval. Recently I realized that I was not like everyone else, I realized that my purpose did not need anyone's approval. Your vision and purpose is way bigger than your immediate surroundings and or community. Being able to tear-down the "boxed in mentality" will open unimaginable doors. 

      As mothers we are more than equipped to be the best at what we choose to do. We have been equipped with patience, tolerance, and a high talent of multitasking. Do not live in a box, tear down that box and take a chance. The first step is to believe that there is always an untouched opportunity waiting for you on the outside of the box. A well balanced mother raises a well balanced child, mentally, physically and emotionally. The moment you can be your own true self is the only time you can start living a full life. 

In other news!
I am starting a campaign " Give my husband back campaign".  This kid thinks she can just sneak in-between us every time we manage to escape to get some "US" time. What are they smiling about anyways?

Kisses :) 

Pray more and say less . . .

    Its a beautiful Saturday morning and I let the kids sleep later than their regular bedtime so I could guarantee myself this 45mins of quiet before our regular Saturday morning madness. So it hit me last night that we spend an awful lot of time complaining about every single thing in life. We complain about the weather, our jobs, our partners, our friends, our food, America, our children, I mean every time we open our mouths we forget that we still have breath and that's a lot to be thankful for. 

     Now for the sake of this blog #nomamipikinleftbehind I am going to stop and ask myself why we constantly complain about our spouses/partners/friends/father of our children/co-parent (what ever title you call them) to every single one that has an ear? we have an issue and we never pray about it? for some mad reason the devil has played a trick on our mindset that you should share the problem and its half solved DEAD WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now i am not saying that there aren't a couple of people who can give you genuine advice but the very first step is PRAYER. If you are calling your sister to join you in prayer then you might be a little bit better off. If its to lay it all out, you are not solving the problem my darling. You pray for the type of co-parent you want. You pray for his job, his friends, his enemies, his coworkers, i mean you have to take charge of the other part of your child's life. Every man that is around your children pours into them, so its your responsibility instead of having a chain of complaints, to shut that door and get down on your knees. I have been there because i met my (husband today) at 19 and will get a little frustrated being very young and made the mistake of leaning on what i now called "loose advice" or "advice without a purpose" or " Personal interest advice" and that was no good for our growth. Spiritual growth strengthens all relationships. We don't serve a deaf God. Everything works according to his plan.

Sometime ago ( 2004/2005 )

Today  :)

    I bring this up because as mothers we must choose happiness. Some women have declared themselves so unhappy that they will not stop for tea, they wont stop for brunch, the have decided that they have it so bad that they will no longer live Life  but focus on complaining on how bad it is. Don't be that woman, Life will pass you by. Don't be the woman who wont pray but chooses to worry. When you miss out on the little things that make you happy, you are not going to be a complete woman and that in itself is a problem. The fact of the matter is we drive these men up the wall as well but they still continue to live a full life. Men have figured out that life wont pass them by, that the football match cannot be put on hold because his wife is acting up, that the world cup only comes every 4 years so he must choose happiness and enjoy this moment.

    Choose happiness, tell yourself that you wont play God in your life. You will make room for God in your life so that you can live again.

Stanley Ebai Enow is a Cameroonian rapper, radio and TV presenter, voice actor, and co-owner of the record label Motherland Empire.He is best known for his 2013 single "Hein Père". By getting nominated and subsequently winning the Best New Act category at the 2014 MTV Africa Music Awards, Enow became the first Cameroonian to achieve this feat.(Wikipedia)
^{(  In the Spirit of living a little i screamed my head off at his last concert in Silver Spring MD )}

kisses:)