Sometimes the dishes can wait

Long over due post, I know.

    So i remember growing up and you could not go to sleep with a single dirty fork in the sink. Not in my mother or grandmothers house. But then growing up in Bamenda, Cameroon we had a full house of about 5 aunties, 4 uncles, 5 cousins and the list goes on. We had a full house of people so house chores went around pretty easy. Growing up in Cameroon i remember how my baby sister was passed around from hand to hand and then finally to my mother when she needed to eat. There was endless help.It was a community  effort. Now bring your self back to todays world. Today I live in Germantown, MD, with my husband and 3 children. Sometimes you get a visitor during the week and can sit down and have adult conversation (well typically for me its usually my sister in-law) and some people who have no family have adopted their neighbors who can sometimes give you that five minute break. Basically there is a little or no community involvement if you get my drift.

 I am talking to alot of mothers and the common gist is that we must learn to stop and take a breather, and yes that includes skipping a chore or two to get some well deserved rest. I used to think that i had to complete every single house chore/business meeting, and more or else i was not the ideal mother (by the way there is no such thing as the perfect mother) until i got to a point where i crashed. There is no specific schedule or task list that mothers must live by, the only requirement we have as mothers is to love our children unconditionally.

     I am able to tell every mother today that it is absolutely ok to stop when you feel like you cant continue. The dishes can wait, the laundry can wait, the ironing, folding, putting away and sorting can wait. I have crashed before and its not a feeling you want as a mother. You don't want to be told that you may not be here for your children tomorrow. Take that break and "let those dishes wait".

Pour yourself  a Glass of Wine and take a break. 

Let #nomamipikinbefleft behind.


Kisses and love.

WHO CARES?

    So i woke up this morning and all i can think about are the series of questions i get when i introduce my self to someone new and we discuss career choices. I have also been getting a host of emails from women who want to dive into entrepreneurship but are not quite sure if their immediate community will accept and or even support their particular service. It brought me to the question that I always ask every single person around me..WHO CARES???

        I ask this question and i mean it in every single sense of the phrase.  The first question you have to ask before talking yourself out of a perfectly good idea is " who really cares ? " who are those people that actually care about YOU and YOUR future? Who is ready to stop THEIR career choice that doesn't include "entrepreneurship" because of someone else's opinion of that particular job? Why should YOUR career choice be a debate? You cannot let fear kill your dreams, there is not enough fear in the world to talk me out of doing something that i know  i love and thats what keeps me going. It doesnt have to be entrepreneurship, that just happens to be my case.

      Remember that in order to be a great mother you cannot go into a job that drains you physically and emotionally. You cannot bring all the distress from your career into your home and expect to raise confident and well rounded children. Children learn what they live and not what you tell them, so before talking your self out of a perfectly great idea next time ask yourself  " WHO CARES ? "



let #NOMAMIPIKINBELEFTBEHIND in the area of having peace in their career choices.







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My Sister my friend......

My sister and best friend. A mother at heart.

    It stormed, it hailed, hell there was fire rain but Fri never gave up, thats how you sort out the women from the girls. This is not just about a Masters degree graduation, its about setting a goal and following through despite what may come. Fri has understood that LIFE cannot come in the way of success because life happens all the time.She stands on Gods word and leans on family. I love you Boh, the world must know that you are an example of a woman who has set herself apart. 
You have been a mother to my children and the best sister i could ever ask for. You are a mother at heart and a great one too.

   I had my first child at 22 and Fri-Maikah ( my sister ) was only a baby then took on the role of mommy without any hesitation. My children are in perfect hands when they are in my sisters care. At a single phone call Fri drops everything and runs to my aid. She is my best friend and confidant. I listen to women complain about their sisters and it hurts my heart so much because your sister is more than a gift from God. You are supposed to stand by each other regardless of what may come.

" Typical Maikah at an event with all the kids "

   Every mother needs a great support system. My family is everything, we cry together laugh together and you cannot come between us. To raise strong balanced and level headed kids you need the support of your family.
My sister amongst my siblings plays a huge role in making sure this #mamipikin gets all the support she needs. I give God Glory for a sister like Fri. My fellow mamipikins, you dont need a host of inconsistent friendships, all the support you need starts with creating real bonds with your family.

Family is essential. I cannot say that enough.

This is exactly why they give out  graduation tickets..LOL..

( my siblings minus my eldest brother )

Let #nomamipikinbeleftbehind in the spirit of showing appreciation and Love.

Kisses,

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