Who's counting?

    A lot of women get bullied for having kids, not having kids, not having enough kids, having too many kids, LAWD! Is there an ideal situation? Whats ideal? What is enough? Are we on a timeline? Are you married to all the women in the Costco line who stare at you hard when you have all your four of your kids in line? Are you married to the ones who make you the center of their little get togethers? Why are we so concerned with other women's reproductive systems and or relationships? What's the obsession? So what if someone is in their 30's without any kids yet? Are you God?

   Women get bullied about something so personal as having children. We bully the single mothers for not having a husband, we bully those with one child for not having enough kids, we bully those without the ideal number of kids, in most cases mothers like me who have 4 or more get the most harassment, (pure madness, even from family members who don't know where you and the kids lay your head at night). We bully newly weds who are not on our "ideal" childbearing timeline. We bully those women who are struggling in private with conception. The harassment sometimes is very subtle, but definitely will hurt especially women who are struggling with conception.

    The bottom line is everybody should stay in their lane, focus on YOU and YOUR HOUSEHOLD! If you constantly complain about women with no children, too many children, (whatever number is ideal, I don't know) single parents, and more, Please take a moment and reevaluate your life, its certain that you have internal issues, you are not happy with YOU and therefore everyone else must endure it.

Let nomamipikin  be caught up feeling guilty, worried, heartbroken, or uncomfortable in a conversation about your family. Do not give room to any self appointed critics.  Let nomamipikin hurt another woman on the discussion on childbearing. Respect each others personal choice on childbearing, its a private and personal issue.

Love and kisses.