Don't lose your MIND...

   Happy New year Mamipikins!
   I definitely owe you all an apology for being MIA. After writing and publishing my first book; Mamipikin Talks/ A Safe Space To Be You, I have been on the go nonstop. Its been one event to the other and then we are in 2018. This is a great time to be alive. A time where you have the ability to think and make decisions for yourself. Don't take this time for granted.

   I wanted to start the year off  by opening up a discussion on sanity. There is a trend in our community asking women to meet certain needs or risk losing spouses, boyfriends, housemates, partners (whatever your situation is) and this has kept me up for a while so I thought I will share on here so we start this year strong.

   Just so you know I am a christian married mother of four so please don't come at me with bible verses of submission because this conversation is certainly not about submission. I am all for submission according to the bible by women to their husbands. And because I know we have male readers, men please do well to love your spouse's, for the bible says so as well. OK, back to the topic at hand. Today’s society is asking that we do hoops, back flips, splits and a lot more so that our spouses are not promiscuous. We go as far as blaming women for not being able to stay on task with the demands at all times as the reason for promiscuity. No one mentions the most important aspect in a relationship which is sanity and inner peace. You want to be very sane. Don't lose your sanity over any relationship. You want to do all these lovely things cook, clean, be a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed, wear matching lingerie, travel the world all of it but at the end of the day make sure YOU are present and not just doing this to keep up with today's idea of a relationship. When you have lost your mind you are no good to your family, your relationship, your career, and most importantly yourself. You want to fall in love not fall for love. If anything drives you insane it's not worth it. You don't understand how bad it is until you are completely wiped out. Then you result to hate, jealousy, gossip, depression and worst cases suicide. Yes people die for Love and relationships. It's a fact.
     You want to enjoy your relationship, first of all love yourself and your mind. Be in love with you. Be sooo in love with yourself that you can remain PRESENT in the relationship and your spouse cannot help but fall in love with you over and over again. Make sure you don't give up your dreams for love. You need to keep your mind sane by doing the things you love. These things should be the things that complete you as a person.

  Yes, mind blowing sex, great food, vacations, and all these are great then what? Can you have sex forever? How much food can you eat?  Both men and women need peace and sanity at home and in their lives. You want Christ to give you inner peace that keeps you sane. You want to be a sane human. No man wants an insane woman and vice versa. At the end of the day you need YOU.

  At the end of the day a relationship should complete you because you are bringing your best to the table and so are they. If you constantly feel depleted in your relationships you need to reevaluate and go back to the drawing board. Of course no relationship is perfect. No one should expect complete fulfillment from anyone else unless our Lord Jesus Christ. You wont meet any saints on earth, so as the year begins look around you. Are your relationships, friendships, partnerships etc. time wasters or are do they contribute to your greater purpose or are you loosing your mind daily.
And just so you know relationship is defined as the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. So Please check your relationships!

Be selfish and Love you first.
Be selfish and create a workable schedule that adds you to the list.
Be selfish and buy yourself that gift that you are expecting from a relationship or spouse.
Be selfish and have a hobby that keeps you sane.
Be selfish and have your own list, haha. Bring your own list of demands on the table.
Be selfish and start this year with the intention of keeping your sanity!
Be selfish and read a self help book.
Be selfish and insist on being a woman that has inner peace.
Be selfish and insist on being the sane one in all your relationships.

You need to be present to chase your wildest dreams. You need to be present in order to Love anyone else. You need to be present to be a great mother, wife, aunt, neighbor and human.
Don't lose your mind in 2018.

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Cheers Kisses,

The DEGREE inside of YOU

The degree inside of  YOU.

   Oh how I have missed you all. Please forgive me. Its been one of the busiest summers for me in many years. I know that's a lame excuse, and will try to do better. I have been writing though, because I write to stay sane. I write my thoughts, my frustrations, my joy, and a lot more. I have been writing to my self.

    So as I resume to sharing, I will like to talk about something that has been on my mind. "The DEGREE inside of you". I know my scholars and very highly educated and over achiever Mamipikins are like "Yes!!!" hahahaha. I am sorry to tell you that this degree does not come from a formal class room. This degree comes from inside of YOU! 

    I usually share with everyone I meet that I never finished college as its not in line with what I am called to do in this season of my life. Now don't screen shot this and tell the world that I am encouraging women to drop out of school. Please screen shot this as a reminder that there is no formal classroom that can teach you about walking in your purpose. You have an inborn degree or several, in some cases that only need your activation. This activation rarely comes from a college campus. All I am saying is that in order to succeed you MUST ACTIVATE the DEGREE inside of YOU! Activation starts with believing in yourself enough that you don't have space in your head and heart for low self esteem, doubt, malice, hate, gossip, and the need for outside validation. 

   You don't need any formal training to walk in the gift that the Lord blessed you with. It comes naturally. You only need activation. Its like having a cell phone, unless you activate it it's just a phone. The only activating agent is ACTION. What are you doing with whats inside of you?  A lot of our poor decisions are based on the simple fact that we don't trust our inborn degrees. Or we let them go dormant. Our children make the same mistakes because we don't tell them how dynamic they are. We raise our children with the same pressures we were raised with. At a young age our children are already in constant fear of what people will think about them. Some of us have taken on the role of satisfying the outside by all means possible. We are in a time where walking your purpose is deemed a taboo and being a side chick, or home wrecker is glorified because society says so. A time where choosing to be steadfast in your purpose is considered a taboo trend, but its OK to forward child pornography and more. A time where siblings are taught hate by parents based on the parents reaction to their children's "success". All this because the latter seems acceptable to society and we have been conditioned to think that what society thinks about us is more important than what we think about our selves. Are we really happy with what society deems important? what does it do to our moral compass? Is what society expects out of you a reflection of your internal degree or gifting? 

    A snippet of one of the highlights of my very busy summer. Teaching/sharing on weddings, family, marriage and more at the AEPDS BRIDAL ACADEMY (http://aepds.com/aepds-bridal-academy.html) 

   Your gift is enough. Your God given ability to function and bring change is enough. Nobody should tell you that success only comes with a lengthy blueprint and hosts of institutional degrees. Your blueprint and GPS is in Christ and he lives within you. Your in born gift will always bring about the completion you need to function properly. The activation and honoring of this gift will change your life for the best. Take a chance and follow that which is inside of you. Life is your only classroom. 

With one of the best teams I have ever worked with. Destination wedding in Montego Bay, Jamaica

  As always  #NOMAMIPIKINLEFTBEHIND!

(Our next couple of entries will be on recognizing the degrees set inside of you and more. Don't forget to subscribe to stay connected.) 

Kisses :)

"Yaah Yefon"

"Yaah YEFON "

     So its 3:00am and I cannot possible explain the weekend I had. However one thing sent me to this blog at this hour. Sometime ago I got invited by His Royal Majesty Fon Nganjo of Njirong village. Well if you have been following the blog you will gather that I was born in Cameroon and I absolutely respect and adore my culture. When I got this invitation I was a nervous wreck and had a million questions on what the Fon needed to discuss with my husband and I. If you are not familiar with our culture as Cameroonians you might not get the big deal. Our Fons are revered. They are our traditional rulers. You don't walk into the palace and visit the Fon. You request his audience in so many steps through his council. What could I have done to be summoned to meet with the traditional leaders of our Land in the USA? The question kept me up and wondering. My mother who can usually whip up answers for my many concerns was not too sure either. All she advised was to make sure we came in with our heads covered up as we could not be in audience with the Fon with our heads not covered up, meaning I needed scarf or head tie and my husband needed a hat.
   
    Sunday finally came and I had to face the reality of being summoned by a great ruler of my people. We arrived to the Palace and we were welcomed by HRM Fon Nganjo's wife who is "Ma Wintoh" (mother/wife of the palace). She had a feast laid out. We ate and sat down, waiting to be called in.

Dressed in our Sundays best. Toghu (Atoghu print specially hand made in Cameroon for events of this magnitude)

    The Hour finally came and I was called in. After a couple of welcomes and more, the women in the room took me into a separate room with a new set of clothes set up and ready for me to change into. How did they get my size is all I could think of. I mean everything was my exact size. (Wondering how I got photos? Well everyone around me knows I document everything. And my sister Anyi who is Godmother to my number 3 is behind this phone camera in oohhhs and ahhhhs capturing all of this. I am truly grateful that we had a conversation about this and she showed up to support me.)

         

All dressed up and ready to go.

His Royal Majesty Fon Nganjo of Njirong village addresses the reason of the summon and traditional rites follow.

 

In this audience was; 

HRM FON of Nganjo of Njirong village.

HRM FON of  NKAR, HRM FON of Babungo, HRM FON OF BAMUKUMBIT, MBE TAZI. Members of the USNWFC, family and friends.

Thankful for you wonderful women who went out of your way to make it to the Palace to support me. (From Left to right -Anyi, Aunty Rosemary aka aunty Mermaid, Yefon  and Star) 

And this is how my weekend ended. I am completely overwhelmed. You have no idea how much of an out of body experience this was to me. I love to serve and contrary to what most people who don't know me on a personal level think, I absolutely hate being the center of  attention. 

   If you look at the photos and videos I am completely overwhelmed. I never saw this coming, I have always served with love and with my whole heart. I am very thankful to the people of Njirong and the world at large for even considering that I serve in any capacity. My everyday dream is to be of service to the world especially its women. My everyday desire is to encourage,empower and support the women in my community and beyond  My goal is to ensure that every woman  I get a chance to meet personally or through my writing  is impacted positively and encouraged to walk in their purpose. As a mother of four incredibly diverse children,several Godchildren and a huge external family  I  speak from a point of experience, empathy, failure, success, love and determination. My goal is to promote a culture where women feel limitless while striving to become the best version of themselves. Thank you to the people of Njirong, you all absolutely blew my mind. May God give me the grace, wisdom, love, kindness, and dedication I need to serve you all. 

I share this experience with you because you all are a part of this journey. #Nomamipikinleftbehind. 

Yours truly, 

" Yaah Yefon of  Njirong "

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