The Lords report will always come to pass. Happy 2nd Birthday my SON

  Today is a little emotional for me. On January 21st, 2015 I had my fourth baby. He turns 2 today. He is my second boy and the love of my life. He is my Grandpa, Brother In-law and my son. He is the best decision. He loves his dad like mad. He also loves his sister Leilen who is my niece and his twin. He is a firecracker, a very intelligent and anointed 2 year old. Today I will love to share a little personal story.

 
     When I was pregnant with Abo, I was diagnosed with Polyhydramnios. (polyhydramnion, hydramnios, polyhydramnios) A a medical condition describing an excess of amniotic fluid in the amniotic sac: Read more:http://www.healthofchildren.com/knowledge/Polyhydramnios.html#ixzz4WPRxMVV8. This was very scary for me because of all the"presumed" side effects.
I also constantly felt  like I was literally in labor from about 4 months in pregnancy.  I was in a lot of pain and pressure and completely exhausted all the time. This was a very tough challenge for me because I had gone through most of my previous pregnancies seamlessly. And there is a myth that basically tells you that the more kids you have the easier the pregnancy... NOT TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    At one particular doctors visit something very interesting happened. I was seeing a specialist and my OBGYN Concurrently. At a particular visit, one of the specialists in a beautiful Ghanaian accent  looked at me and said  "I will like to know how you are at your fourth pregnancy with a history of PCOS" (Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a health problem that affects one in 10 women of childbearing age.Women with PCOS have a hormonal imbalance and metabolism problems that may affect their overall health and appearance. PCOS is also a common and treatable cause of infertility). I was a little confused because I had totally forgotten about a very old diagnosis of PCOS from about 9 years before. We talked about the fact that my husband and I are absolutely blessed by the Lord and that I never thought about it from the day we left some doctors office in Baltimore 9 years before. I also shared that I didn't depend on "google doctors" diagnosis and symptoms at that time and that's what probably carried me through. Today the "google doctors" will have you dead and buried with their analysis of your health symptoms.

   I am meeting more and more women who are are dealing with PCOS and its many side effects. PCOS is a very common diagnosis. I want to encourage you to believe the report of the Lord over your life. The Lords report will always manifest. The Doctors must do their job but your diagnosis is in the hands of the Lord. And he took all diagnosis with him to the cross on Calvary. In the same light we must be sensitive to one another. You can't assume that everyone must deal with the crisis in their lives the same way you do. Take it easy on each other. Don't be quick to judge. Ultimately its a personal decision on how to handle the sometimes very difficult diagnosis. Your only job is to support, Love, and be a shoulder to lean on. You are welcome to share medical knowledge but do not get carried away. I have seen first hand the miracle of conception by Gods grace and favor.

  Anyhow with that said, I had a very hectic pregnancy with Abo. It was the pregnancy of all pregnancies. My family will tell you. I was in no mood for any sort of games, jokes and more. I was pregnant along with my youngest sister and my sister in-law. We had to support each other but most especially they supported me a whole lot because my hormones were a horrible. This pregnancy taught me resilience, patience, and gave me the opportunity to trust GOD SOLELY. There is a blessing in every storm, you cant see it as you go through the storm but i can almost guarantee that as soon as it calms down you certainly will. I learned to take off the cape and let God be in control totally.

Blessings 

 As I write this post a lot of words come to mind and the most common word is privacy. And because I am a mind reader (hahaha I have always wanted to say that) and know some folk who can't handle real life testimonials. If you have been following this blog for a while you will understand that I  am absolutely pro privacy. However there is privacy and there are secrets. I will always share especially if its going to bless another woman. I share my personal journey of motherhood, entrepreneurial life as a mother, and anything in between as long as it gives room for conversation, healing, empowerment and addresses issues that are plaguing women in the world and most especially in my community. With that said, a lot of people assume that keeping secrets is the same as privacy. You can choose to live a life full of secrets and I will choose to keep my privacy.  I am not going to let our society dictate what should be discussed, shared, and brought to the light and so should you. A lot of your secrets are killing you slowly because you have chosen to die with these "experiences" that complete your story. So we tell half truths and cannot save even our own selves from the many things that haunt us.
Tell your true story today, you might save another woman. And the woman might be YOU. And if you choose not to, remember that every now and then you depend on someone else's journey to relate to. What is your story? How did you get here? What are you dealing with? How can your story/testimony make a difference?

  Today Abo is 2 years old. Whose report will you believe? I am thankful to God for blessing us with Abo. I am thankful to my family for being a wonderful team. I thank Abos grandma "Aunty B" who is the most important part of my in home system. 2 years ago, I walked into the hospital a solid 220 pounds or so and today we have a healthy 2 year old.
GLORY TO GOD!!!!!!!!!!!

Today 

Let No Mamipikin Be Left Behind.
Its a new day and the old diagnosis cannot hold you captive.


Happy Birthday to Abongwas Aunties born on the same date. Guess what?
They are both called MAH. I Love them both dearly.
"Aunty Boh Mah"
My Ma Sally

My very awesome big sister and her wonderful Husband.
Happy Birthday Ma Sally. 

Happy birthday "Aunty Boh Mah"
You are the best auntie in the world. Thank you for being a wonderful auntie to Abo and the rest of the team.

KISSES,
Eurykah

Miscarriage ..........

   Its 5 am and I have been up all night because my 8 year old has a stomach bug. That's a story for another post.
    Anyhow that brings me to a sequel of sorts on child bearing and more...  http://nomamipikinleftbehind.blogspot.com/2015/04/whos-counting.html?m=1 (Read here).
    Yesterday I shared on my personal Facebook page ( for those who follow me) that I had gone through 5 pregnancies and had 4 live births. And a lot of things or emotions came up because it took me back to my miscarriage. I had a miscarriage some 5/6 years ago. I remember how devastated I was and very heart broken. I also  recount how everyone ( well mostly the adult women around me) insisted that I keep the miscarriage a secret. I remember hearing them say things like "oh don't worry, it was not a real baby yet". And a whole lot more that I would rather forget.  In all the harassment, I was blessed with a solid set of sisters/friends  thankfully, who supported me and stayed on me with so much love to make sure I went through the loss with their support.

     A miscarriage is very devastating. It feels like a part you leaves when the baby doesn't make it to term.You go through so many emotions. Its that pain that only God can truly heal. A lot of women go through miscarriages and cannot heal completely because our culture doesn't promote expressing your pain in regards to a miscarriage. You have women who are going through a whole lot of pain, struggling to conceive and cannot share on the struggle of their journey because our society harasses women about their wombs, its contents and use. You are not given the opportunity to share about the pain of a miscarriage and therefore complete restoration and healing never really takes place. For Gods sake a miscarriage is not a taboo. A miscarriage is a painful loss of a child. You can refuse to call it that, but to that mother that's exactly what it is.

     Your job as a sister, mother, friend, spouse, etc is to be a shoulder to lean on. Encourage the woman in need to seek professional help if necessary because sometimes the trauma requires more than a couple of conversations with your best friends.  And if you go through a miscarriage please do not live in fear, and do not loose hope. Our God is gracious and would never forsake you. Take the time to heal and do not do it on anyone else's timing. If you can, seek help from miscarriage help groups. You are welcome to share as you please. You are not alone and should NOT DIE IN SILENCE.

   To you who has gone through a miscarriage or several miscarriages. I stand on behalf of all the people who have hurt you, disappointed you, questioned your WOMB, and judged you by your circumstances. I stand to say SORRY. I apologize for the hurt, I also apologize and hope that you can forgive not only those who did not support you during this difficult time, but you can forgive yourself and live again with hope that the Lord has not forgotten you.

     A lot of women make the conscious choice not to have any children and it should be respected. I also ask we practice to stay out of each others wombs. You don't question my choices on child bearing and I promise not to question your decision not to bear children. You don't question any one's timing on when to bear children and you don't play WOMB police.

     Cheers to a beautiful holiday. Love a woman today, regardless of their WOMB choice.

Nomamipikinleftbehind

kisses

Guadeloupe Experience. #NNN40reasons

   Guadeloupe Experience.
#NNN40reasons 

     Every now and then we need a break from everything. Pack up your bags and take a little get away from your children, work and everything that keeps you on a schedule. Taking a break is mandatory, its not a luxury especially for those mothers who work from home. I used to think that taking a vacation was a luxury. Huge misconception. Someone lied when they convinced you that being a mom meant not being able to live again. They lied when they told you that you couldn't be your most authentic self at all times. They also lied when they tried to convince you that you didn't deserve to live a little because you are supposed to die by heart break and sadness caused by "mommies guilt". 
     Don't let these stereotypes stop you from soaring in your purpose fearlessly today. Take a break and live a little if you can. If you can take the help offered and give yourself a chance to be YOU. Give your self a break every now and then. You absolutely deserve it. Give up a pair of loubs, give up $500 hairdos, give something up and take a break AWAY from your routine. Let go of parental guilt. You are allowed to make a living for your family. You are also allowed to take a breather when needed. You are doing what you need to do in order to take care of your family, there should be no guilt involved. 

    This time it was even a little more special. We gave a beautiful toast in honor of my better half, my partner and best friend. Apart from eating at every road side joint we could find, we had the opportunity to bond as a family. This trip was filled with so much laughter and love.

Photos by Award winning photographer:
http://drevizionmedia.com/ #Drevizion 
Location: Guadeloupe 

Snippets of my Guadeloupe Experience. 

Enjoy.

We had a blast.... Hope you can pack up your bags and take a break sooner than later. 

kisses,

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