What do you call yourself?

Yay its Friday.
So when I started this blog I thought it will be for mothers only, little did I know that it will be a place to share with everyone. I still love my mamipikins a little extra don't get it wrong now :) but I am hoping that every reader is blessed by each post I share❤️.

    So I am looking through my timeline/newsfeed of life and I really cannot help but wonder why we choose the most ridiculous/sad/disappointing/  nicknames for ourselves and will sometimes have the nerve to use them as our preferred titles. I wonder if we realize that we are being labelled by a 30year old negative story because thats all we have portrayed. We settle in a negative circumstance and give room to small minded folk who are dealing with their own self esteem issues to ridicule us!


  You cannot be labelled by your current circumstance. There is YOU and then there is your current circumstance (which is almost always temporary). People can feel the energy around what you call yourself, if you decide to stay defeated, then every time they refer to you they do so in reference to defeat.How dare you accept to be called anything but "overcomer", "favor", "go getter", etc? A parent who cannot separate themselves from their current misfortune will see the worst in everything around them including their children.

   Get out of the funk and call yourself victorious. Look at the winner in you, look at the woman who overcame bullying, look at the single mother who is able to balance a career and raise kids,look at YOU! Take a look at all the good that has come out of you.


   Let nomamipikin live in her sad past, when you decide to call yourself any name whatsoever, make sure its nothing but strong and positive and the world will follow your lead.



Kisses.

Your story Vs my story...

   Your story Vs my story...
Your story is your testimony. People may interpret it wrongly, question it, tell it lopsided, change it, and sometimes attempt to tear you down for it, but at the end of the day if you have already owned your story no one has any power over you.

   I want to be able to live every moment in confidence that my story is a part of the journey that God has planned for me. Don't let the wrong version of YOUR STORY being told stop you from walking with your head held high. What l tell women today is to stand tall and tell their own story, tell it as it is. Own it and learn from the mistakes, share it with those who can learn a thing or two from it. Do not focus on retelling it to please the world. Once you are transparent you can never be hurt by other peoples small minded opinions. You begin to exude great self confidence that no one can break.

(Birthday celebration. Outfit #2 April 2014) 

                      

     Be in control of your story. Once you understand that its part of your journey no one can have control over you and your past anymore. Let Nomamipikin be left behind!

Just thought I will share my 2:30am thoughts...

Enjoy the rest of your week.
Kisses,

Support System ...

   
  Nomamipikinleftbehind! Ahhhh I was this close to being left behind this month. I have been MIA and I promise its been unavoidable. I hope all you fabulous mamas have not been left behind!

       This entire month I have been writing down notes to myself about the importance of a solid support system. As I look back  about 7 years ago when i had my first child I realize that many people have come and gone but there are a handful of people who never disappoint. I started asking other mother questions like; Do you have a solid, sure, steady, guaranteed support system? Do you have definite solid friendships that you can rely on if you are in dire need of support?  Most of the mothers around me nodded yes and one consistent answer was; "well people come and go and you cant trust anyone". Most of their answers were pretty consistent.


A great part of my support system together in prayer

      Now I decided that I will share about the importance of having a solid support system not only as a mother but in general. You must be able to identify those people who remain consistent in your life and vice versa. Those people who don't wait for you to fall before you picking you up but caution you about the pit ahead of the road, these are the people who need to remain in your inner circle and support system. Those people who can be HONEST without being judgmental. YOU are a great part of your support system as well. You have to be able to give as much as you expect out of anybody or more. You cannot expect to have a solid support system if you are not a consistent and reliable friend.

   Nobody can function without the support of another human being, it usually has very little to do with financial support and more with emotional support. Its about having your own team, a set of people who will pick up after you and you after them. Those people who are undeniably part of your family, No matter how bad it is they will never hurt you and neither will you. The very people who are there for your kids without any questions. The few who will loose a couple of days at work to help with your children. Those few who understand that as a mother you may need a break and offer babysitting. You dont need to talk to them everyday but you know in your heart they are on your side.

     
    As a mother if I did not have an incredible support system I will have lost it years ago.  Remember YOU are a big part of the support system. Stay consistent and build strong and healthy relationships. Everyone needs a great support system, let them feel appreciated and don't abuse them.

Kisses,