Don't drown in the social media pool of foolishness

   
        Its summer vacation at my home "big compound" (as commonly called). Please excuse me if you see any of these phrases in this post "stop it", "close the fridge", "turn down the volume" or "leave the baby alone". I know I cant be the only one who says this ALL DAY. Any how I love my children and wont have it anyother way, theres nothing I enjoy better than being a mother.

I love a big family. (This is from my sisters graduation two years ago)

       I see so much foolishness on social media, I don't know who to get pissed at? Is it the people posting the madness or the ones liking and commenting on any madness. Be true to yourself, how were you before the LIKE button? the issue here is that our generation gets their self confidence from social media popularity, or should I say social media acknowledgment, so we have forgotten how to live without putting on a show for our social media audience. We are raising children in this shallow world, do not ignore talking to your loved ones about how important it is for your inside to be better than your outside, how important it is to do good without a siren for recognition. As a mother instilling great self confidence in my children is very important. Do not let the social media view of life swallow you and your loved ones.

       We can enjoy all the benefits of social media networking, meeting old friends, and more without  loosing all integrity and common sense in the process.
May God heal us.

    Let no mamipikin live based on social media recognition. We are better than putting up a show for a couple of LIKES. Always read and re-read before you hit the post button.

Kisses
#nomamipikinleftbehind

Your choices...

   

 As a mother of 4 children, aunty, Godmother, wife, sister, daughter and more, I chose to work 5 days a week from home and run a fast pace, fast growing, event planning company on the weekends. This works for my family. Other mothers work out of the home and that works best for their families. Basically every family does what is best for them. There is no perfect way. No way, not at all, just what works best!

     Now with that being said I am running into some very insensitive people and I'm sure you my fellow mamipikins are too. People who assume that they have a blueprint for a perfect mother. Do not apologize for the decisions you make in regards to the well being of your family. Do not get in the habit of explaining "what" and "why" to anyone. Keep your responses short and direct to the point. Learn to spend your time and energy wisely!  No one can possibly love your child and or children more than you. Don't let people run your homes. Don't fall under the pressure of "others".

     Whatever you choose to do or give as a mom is usually your best. Stand behind your own choices. Your family should be your number one priority.

Let nomamipikin live for anyone else. Your choices are "YOUR" choices.

Kisses ...

"First time mom"

     I would wait to include all this in a  book, but then I believe there is some mother 

out here that needs this post. To those who might not know, I am a mother of 4 wonderful children. All 4 delivered full term vaginally. When I had my first child everything was a complete shock, from breastfeeding, to bath time, to my countless attempts at bottle-feeding. Now I am one of the most persistent people you will ever meet. I had "my" expectations from pregnancy all the way to labor and beyond. My oldest child completely refused a bottle, I only survived because of the wonderful family God blessed us with. We bought every-bottle in the market and finally gave up. I breastfed her for 14months. Now that was my personal choice.(Breastfeeding requires patience and a ton of dedication. Don't loose your mind if you don't get it right the first time, there is no award to be won, no badges and or medals.)The transition from newborn to about 2 months was the toughest time in my life. 
    Bringing a newborn baby home is a very demanding task, even though its very special it can be a litttle nerve wrecking for most people. We should not ignore discussing what is important at our babyshowers, and or intimate mommy "hang outs". Talk about complete surprise when you come home and nothing is like the mommy blogs full of cute babies describes it. No one tells you about the reality of post partum blues, or how unbelievably sore you will be immediately your milk comes in,(breast milk of course), no one tells you that "baby latching" is an entire Grad-school program cramped up in a day and can be one of the most frustrating things you ever experience, no one prepares the new moms for the constant explaining that needs to be done (by those who choose to, personally I did not have the time) to your non-mom friends about why you are so tired, or unavailable to chat for hours on the phone, or that your outings will be timed. All these are not to scare our new "mamipikins" but to prepare them for a completely new and very deserving stage in life. Instead of focusing on how quick one must fix the outside; weight, skin, waist size and more postpartum, talk about the reality of bringing home a new baby to your expectant mothers, talk about sex drive and or the lack there of, encourage each other to accept the process of gradual weight loss, and staying positive reminding them that just like pregnancy it does not last forever. 

   Let nomamipikin  be left behind. We will prepare, support and help transition our new mothers. Coming to visit much later and bringing in a list of critiques for the new mom is definitely the wrong way to do it, new moms love advice but it gets overwhelming when. I am working on  a "must know" list for all expectant and new mothers, lots of input from my other mamipikins will be awesome.

Kisses.