So its about 6 am in my world and on a Saturday when I don't have any events(work: I am an event planner by day and mother by.... well I am always a mother,no schedule there)  this is my favorite time of the day. I can sit down in a corner and just reflect on my entire week without 3 little people calling me by the minute. My 3 year old is at the age of "Mommy X smiled at me", "Mommy there are people in the house", "Mommy are you my mommy?" ... I mean she is what we call in Cameroon( my home country) "report card" and  in the Us "tattle tale". Anyhow with that said I am thankful I have them to keep me busy and away from what could be a lot of trouble out here.

With my number one fan and the biggest boss I know. Mafor... (mother of mine)

    I think every woman needs a crash course or (refresher) on how to be a great friend. When I say every woman I mean every single woman. We have lost it. As I talk to other mothers and women I begin to realize that most of our issues come from the fact that we are not able to stay Loyal to anyone at all. So my question is how are we raising our daughters? It becomes a vicious cycle. I am personally working on being able to forgive and move on so I can be a great friend again. I want to be able to smile from the inside and say I let that go because I am human and make a ton of mistakes too.

     We are treating each other like "reserved parking spots" No one is a reserved Parking Spot. You can't choose when to park and when to leave the spot empty, you can't choose to drive around and then come back because you are paying a small monthly fee, You cant treat people like a parking spot.You cannot bid on each other like you will do if you wanted a great parking spot closer to your house. You don't own anyone and therefore cannot treat them like crap!If you cannot be loyal and consistent you are not ready for real friendship.We must treat each other with some respect. You cannot choose when someone is good enough according to your  "needs radar" and when they are not. Friendship cannot be based on the convenience at that season of your life. You have to separate "associates" or "ministry" (ministry because they are truly some people who need your help to go over certain tough times at a point in their life) from true friendship. Look around you and you will see that some people are your ministry, others are just associates, and then you have a handful of those who are your real friends.

   As mothers there is no time for watered down relationships. Nomamipikin should be caught up in "parking spot" friendships.

Happy Saturday
Kisses

Blessing in your Storm

  There is always a blessing in every storm. I know for sure because I have seen this happen time and time again. The real challenge is being able to stay patient enough through the storm. So I usually use my darling self as an example because who else knows me better than me?
I am currently learning every single thing there is about patience. Those who know me will laugh and say God has a sense of humor and he is sure using adequately.

  I usually plan everything, I mean every single thing. Its in my nature to stay organized and almost try to play "psychic"( which is soooooo wrong yes i know) in every area of my life. I have a system to every aspect of my life and I know I drive tons of people in my immediate surrounding (like my poor husband, my siblings, and inner circle) crazy. To be honest my knack for perfection is not always bad, for example I am a no-nonsense event planner and make a living out of that!

    So here am I, all 200pounds of me (don't open your eyes too wide I will be back! nomamipikinleftbehind) waiting to go into labor and for the first time in my life I have absolutely no control. Im literally learning that I do not have control over Gods timing and there is nothing I can do about it. It had to take something as important as this for me to start letting go and letting God. All mothers who have had full term deliveries will agree with me that once you hit 37weeks in your pregnancy there is a certain anxiety that takes over and you cant think about anything but having the baby. After reading every mommy to be  blog, unending articles, and a lot more I am finally where God wants me to be, and its to let him be God alone.

   I have had a not so easy pregnancy, Yes! But compared to what I read on the blogs millions of women go through worse. We must learn to stay calm in the storm. We must learn that no matter how hard the storm is, it usually always calms down. There are no storms that do not settle, every woman has a different storm that they live with and struggle with. Looking at it literally you cant keep your eyes open in a storm, its windy, objects flying everywhere, and you most likely need shelter. As you go through the storm remember that you come out stronger and refined. Learn to listen in your storm,
Learn to see things with your eyes closed, learn to appreciate the fact that the storm did not wash you away. You must accept that "Life happens"  and heck being a mother "REAL LIFE HAPPENS". At the end of the day let nomamipikin get out of any storm without a life lesson. There is a blessing in every storm, you cant see it as you go through the storm but i can almost guarantee that as soon as it calms down you certainly will.

Let Go and Let God.

Love you all.