Loving EQUALLY

    Hello there fam! Yesterday I was going to share this post however, I am in recovery from a beautiful busy weekend. I got to enjoy brunch with a room full of royalty on Sunday in honor of mothers day.

      The entire graduation and mothers day month I get to interact with family, friends, clients, ask questions, get emails, and more. Its been on my mind for years to share about the importance of loving all your children EQUALLY. And the importance of loving your family members equally or at least working at it.

      On mothers day, I spend a lot of time reading, observing, and asking questions because its in my nature to observe my surroundings. I listen to women make what i choose to call absurd judgments on each other. I even read somewhere on social media that as a mother if you didn't get a gift and bought your own gift, you are pathetic. Really boo? Are you serious right now? Pathetic for loving my self? Some women even go as far as talking down their friends and sisters who are not mothers yet with some story of an age range and more. Anyhow in all this I have come to find the month of May to be very interesting. Did I mention that some people are actually unable to call their mothers on "mothers day" because mommy is in heaven? And the whole mothers day charade just overwhelms them? Yep! And then we have the beautiful graduation celebrations. And thanks to social media we get to celebrate with each other in a way that we have not been able to for many years. People from far and near can watch you live, you can tweet, snap chat, all of that. Yes May is an emotionally charged month.

  Some of us don't understand that our children should be loved equally and celebrated as often as we can. (Celebration does not translate to a sometimes unnecessary party). Love all your children equally. And loving your child means being able to discipline them when its called for. Not enabling bad behavior as compensation for your bad parenting. Not enabling an addiction, laziness, and mediocrity because its easier. Don't love them according to your idea of achievement and or success! Celebrate the little things so that they will aim for greater. Your children are waiting to hear you applaud their achievements  without any judgments. You are not allowed to love your physician child more than the musician. It is not OK. You are not allowed to celebrate those with grand kids more than those who don't have any kids. And it gets deeper. You love the married kids more than the single parent. We cannot continue to live in a community where parents choose to discriminate amongst their kids, and in so doing bringing division amongst their children. Who said that it was OK to love your children only when you feel like they are "successful" and I insist that success is relative. Its your responsibility to love your children equally. You openly celebrate the children that are "publicly successful". And yes public success is a topic for another day.

  In this month of May, lets choose to love on purpose. Love and respect women enough to not suggest that they must have children at a certain age. Leave their wombs alone.  Love all your children equally. Love yourself enough to not let these obvious prejudices hold you back from living life like its golden. Love all your siblings equally regardless of their financial statements. 
Love each other on purpose. 

No Mami Pikin Left Behind!