Unattainable expectations

   So i started writing this post on monday (last  monday) but could not come up with a title. Its as simple as that, this morning i woke up and "unattainable expectations" summed it up.
     
      We cannot expect everyone to think and act like  us. It has taken me well over twenty years to learn that.To put it simply "expect very little". My husband spent the last seven or more years telling me this. He will constantly  remind me that i set extremely high expectations for people and that i was setting my self up to get really upset at the end of the day. If you are like me i tend to love, give, and sacrifice without any boundaries, and lived all this while thinking that everybody else had to be the same. Truth is i was setting my self up for heart break. I cannot even begin to tell you how that ruins so many things for you.The fact is there is only one you for a particular reason and purpose. Nobody will act, think, or react like you. Its normal to expect good from people, but thats not a guarantee because again not everyone can think and act like you. If you usually do things a certain way and expect the same from everyone, you will end up extremely frustrated. Do good because its the right thing to do. Do not wait for applause and recognition, do not stop doing the right thing because you never get recognition and a standing ovation.

   The least you expect out of man, the better for you. Nobody owes you anything, Set yourself free from the bondage of blame. Don't build unattainable expectations for anyone.Put all your trust and expectations in God and leave it at that.

   As mothers, the less we have to worry about about issues out of raising strong well grounded kids the better.  The only teachable people in your life are  your children, ( well the people you have the opportunity to guide closely and teach them right from wrong ) be a mother who teaches  about gratitude in a way that doesnt require a strong set of rules, let gratitude and a willing heart to do good to others be part of your everyday life. No mamipikin should be locked in the bondage of blame.


   My five year old son asked me the other day if i could bake pie, and some other complex desserts, when i did not respond he simply smiled and said " or we can just buy it from giant " hahaaaa thank God for wisdom. Thats exactly where it will be coming from.


Keep smiling,
Kisses.

Who are you fighting?

Who are you fighting? 
      
        Sometimes you are in a battle with the wrong opponent, throwing punches at the wrong opponent, getting ready for a match with the completely wrong opponent. 
Sometimes  you have got to put down the boxing gloves and ask yourself if you could be your own worst enemy. Put the gloves down and work on YOU! 

         Every choice you make has a consequence: friendships, relationships, and so on. You choose to let the wrong people around you and you will pay the consequence, you choose to love and you will get the reward, every single choice has a consequence. So before you pull out the gloves next time ask your self this question  " Who am i fighting? " 
      I say this to remind us that sometimes as mothers and because of how hectic it could be raising children in most cases without adequate help we turn to lash out on our innocent kids, spouses, siblings, coworkers,basically anybody who is in our immediate circle. We take out our issues on anyone that is available. We sulk about our mistakes and refuse to own up to them and consistently put up a fight with the wrong opponents.  

   I am learning that i must take responsibility for all my mistakes and learn from them so that i don't put up a fight with the wrong opponent anymore. I think thoroughly before making any decisions, i don't commit to tasks i cannot handle, i am extremely careful in making or keeping friendships, i do not compromise my faith and christian believes for any friendships and or relationships, and so many other changes i am working on personally. Its a personal journey and i only share because i know that other mamipikins face similar issues. 

What about if you are the problem?

Could it be you? 

Do you need a vacation? 

Do you need a break?  

Do you need a change of friendships?

Do you need a retreat?

Do you need to say a quick prayer? 

Do you need to apologize?

Do you need  to work on YOU?

     Let nomamipikin be caught in the wrong battles. It affects your ability to be a great parent when you refuse to take responsibility for your own actions. How then are you able to teach your children about integrity and honesty?

Kisses,