Its a brand new day

      I am actually posting from my cell phone which i never do, but when something wakes you up and you cannot wait to share, its usually a sign that someone, somewhere needs this now! Or maybe I need this more, it could be for me. 

      When you understand your value, you will delete a row of numbers off your phone. Some people have mastered the art of reaping where they did not sow, don't be a victim. 

I talk about friendships, motherhood, eventplanning and business relationships because its what i completely understand. 

    Every relationship should have a base, what is it that brings you guys together? Is it YOUR IDEAS, money, "just hanging out", sex, gossip, christian values, common job, what is it??? Look through your innercircle and ask your self what brings me and X,Y,Z together? Is it worth it? Are we growing? Am i the problem? It may sound crazy but if you want real growth you must first get to the root of the problem. 

    Have a good morning and let #nomamipikinbeleftbehind in this issue of self and relationship improvement.

KISSES,

Sometimes the dishes can wait

Long over due post, I know.

    So i remember growing up and you could not go to sleep with a single dirty fork in the sink. Not in my mother or grandmothers house. But then growing up in Bamenda, Cameroon we had a full house of about 5 aunties, 4 uncles, 5 cousins and the list goes on. We had a full house of people so house chores went around pretty easy. Growing up in Cameroon i remember how my baby sister was passed around from hand to hand and then finally to my mother when she needed to eat. There was endless help.It was a community  effort. Now bring your self back to todays world. Today I live in Germantown, MD, with my husband and 3 children. Sometimes you get a visitor during the week and can sit down and have adult conversation (well typically for me its usually my sister in-law) and some people who have no family have adopted their neighbors who can sometimes give you that five minute break. Basically there is a little or no community involvement if you get my drift.

 I am talking to alot of mothers and the common gist is that we must learn to stop and take a breather, and yes that includes skipping a chore or two to get some well deserved rest. I used to think that i had to complete every single house chore/business meeting, and more or else i was not the ideal mother (by the way there is no such thing as the perfect mother) until i got to a point where i crashed. There is no specific schedule or task list that mothers must live by, the only requirement we have as mothers is to love our children unconditionally.

     I am able to tell every mother today that it is absolutely ok to stop when you feel like you cant continue. The dishes can wait, the laundry can wait, the ironing, folding, putting away and sorting can wait. I have crashed before and its not a feeling you want as a mother. You don't want to be told that you may not be here for your children tomorrow. Take that break and "let those dishes wait".

Pour yourself  a Glass of Wine and take a break. 

Let #nomamipikinbefleft behind.


Kisses and love.

WHO CARES?

    So i woke up this morning and all i can think about are the series of questions i get when i introduce my self to someone new and we discuss career choices. I have also been getting a host of emails from women who want to dive into entrepreneurship but are not quite sure if their immediate community will accept and or even support their particular service. It brought me to the question that I always ask every single person around me..WHO CARES???

        I ask this question and i mean it in every single sense of the phrase.  The first question you have to ask before talking yourself out of a perfectly good idea is " who really cares ? " who are those people that actually care about YOU and YOUR future? Who is ready to stop THEIR career choice that doesn't include "entrepreneurship" because of someone else's opinion of that particular job? Why should YOUR career choice be a debate? You cannot let fear kill your dreams, there is not enough fear in the world to talk me out of doing something that i know  i love and thats what keeps me going. It doesnt have to be entrepreneurship, that just happens to be my case.

      Remember that in order to be a great mother you cannot go into a job that drains you physically and emotionally. You cannot bring all the distress from your career into your home and expect to raise confident and well rounded children. Children learn what they live and not what you tell them, so before talking your self out of a perfectly great idea next time ask yourself  " WHO CARES ? "



let #NOMAMIPIKINBELEFTBEHIND in the area of having peace in their career choices.







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